Adjustment Disorders

This is one you don't hear about very often. We all know someone who's suffered from or is currently being treated for Depression. We've been bludgeoned nightly by screwballs like Nancy Grace trying to figure out WHY they did it? WHO FREAKIN CARES???? It's natural selection and eventually it takes cows like her. My subject... Adjustment Disorders. Have you ever know someone that you just couldn't figure out? Why do they tell the far fetched stories they do or why they might say things to you that are just downright mean. They steal from you and lie about it. Why they always have to drop names or worse... act as if they're Mr Superlative? (I'll go into that more, another time) I've blamed this type of bad social behavior on many things, and just like a doctor who treats the symptoms and not the cause, I'm also wrong. Apparently there's a psychological excuse for being a *##*ing Bastard or a god*##* Bitch. If they can just get all the "poor me" reasons together they have an official excuse for people not wanting them around. They would after awhile find themselves completely isolated if it weren't for the codependency of others. Every disorder has those who suffer their own issues to the point they can only befriend other disturbed people. Lets not forget the unsuspecting innocents who earnestly engage themselves in what appears to be a budding relationship, only to realize they're being used. So it's usually in hindsight that we discover the treacherous behavior wasn't imagined at all. Eventually we become jaded to socializing altogether. Even families suffer from our unwillingness to participate in weddings/birthdays/...... funerals. Does avoiding these people or the places they might be make us safe? Does this label us with our own disorder? Maybe!! Who knows for sure. I do know this.... If I can avoid the person or the place, and I can do so without regret or resentment, then I have overcome their negative aura. Having done so, I must without a doubt prepare myself for their inevitable emotional breakdown. I must be physically and mentally strong in order to help them understand WHY, when they're ready. I'm not really sure why I wrote about this today... There are of course a few obvious reasons.... some of them daily, but deeper than that I'm finally making some sense of my own life. I'll never fully understand the reasoning behind the decisions some people make, but I don't have to allow those decisions to impact me negatively. My daily reminder should be...... not what I don't want, but what I DO Want! I want to smile I want to laugh I want to hold only goodness in my soul I wholeheartedly assign myself these three tasks. Adjustment Disorder?????? Not for me.Obviously I was trained at an early age to fight back, or maybe I was simply establishing my place. Maybe I was already keenly aware of "Bad Apples". Good thing too, because bad apples exist a lot more places than Down County. It's a strange metaphor... especially since it's been a part of my life for so long, but we all know how one bad apple can spoil the bunch. What do you do? You throw that apple out. I WANT to be surrounded by GOOD APPLES!!